On the eleventh day of Christmas, my True Love gave to me... eleven Pipers Piping!
Now there's a gift to bring a smile - enjoying the sound of bagpipes from eleven pipers ... and getting nervous for them (or excited!) everytime the wind blows their kilts :-)
Whether you enjoy the bagpipes of Scotland, the serenade of violins in Italy or the castanets of flamenco from Spain, there is something romantic about live musical entertainment while enjoying a meal out together. So, "pipers piping" works really well for our relationship advice for day 11 - always take time out for just the two of you on a regular (ideally weekly) basis.
We are big advocates of date nights, where we agree the date and time each week that we both ring fence in our diaries as "our time" and become unavailable for anything else - work, calls... even kids (having made the relevant child care arrangements!) It works best if it's a set time each week because it then becomes a habit that you and others around you grow to expect. That makes things easier. Sometimes we have had a set night each week but more recently, a long lunch on a set day seems to work better because the boys are in the middle of exam preparations and need more support in the evenings. It can be a date night out or a date night in - whatever works for you - as long as you can spend time together undisturbed. Enjoy a meal or activity together, a special night out on the town or, for the parents amongst us, just the chance to start AND finish a conversation together in one sitting! This one habit in 2018 will keep love alive and put enough fuel in the love tank to allow you to sail through minor challenges. And I must pass on great advice that my late father gave us on our wedding day - make time to make love. In the busyness of life, intimate moments can be missed or become boring. So when you are planning your date nights / events, introduce a bit of excitement and anticipation every now and again to spice things up. As a matter of fact, the course we are about to release in the next few days is on Creating and Sustaining True Sexual Intimacy. Be the first to know when this course goes live by signing up here.
Suddenly the year ahead seems very bright :-)
Bet you've burst into song already....!
On the eleventh Day of Christmas my True Love gave to me:
Dates for Love and passion
Skills to manage conflict
Gen-tle words in speak-ing
The-ir full commit-ment
Wis-dom from 3 mon-keys
Help when I'm stressed out
NO MORE UNMET EXPEC-TATIONS!
A ta-ank full of love
Joy a-and Laughter,
Lang-uage of Love,
and a goal fo-or our rel-ation-ship!
It's our last day tomorrow - day 12! We've enjoyed this so much we need to come up with something else soon :-)