On the third day of Christmas, my true love gave to me… three French Hens. Three French Hens? Why on earth you may well wonder. Well, so did we!
Painting by Will Bullas
We knew that the gifts were supposed to be increasingly extravagant over the 12 days, but it was only when we looked into it that we discovered the song’s French origins. It turns out that French Hens are pretty special egg layers (at least according to Wikipedia). So, you can now begin to see why “3 French Hens” would have been a pretty special gift, back in the day.
It also turns out that Faverolles (one of the best known breeds of French Hens), because of their gentle nature, were popularly kept as pets, especially for children. So, it is on the assumption that these French Hens must have brought great Joy to their owners, that we make our connection (albeit an admittedly tenuous one!) to great relationship advice for Day 3.
In our (almost) 25 years of marriage and 20+ of helping couples enjoy better and better relationships, we have seen time and again just how much Joy & laughter can be a great tonic for successful relationships. Huffington Post carried a great article not so long ago with a title that sums it up brilliantly: Couples Who Play Together, Stay Together. Now, of course, don’t be fooled into confusing that with playing around in your relationship or taking commitment lightly! Nothing could be further from the truth. What is absolutely true though, is that those couples who have fun together, enjoy each other’s company more and so tend to stay together and happier for the long-term.
So, that gives us verse 3 for today’s addition to the song…
Here we go… get the tune in your head… we’ve even spelled the sy-lla-bles out for you… ready… on Three… One, Two, Three:
On the Third Day of Christmas my True Love gave to me:
Joy a-and Laughter,
Lang-uage of Love,
and a goal fo-or our rel-ation-ship!
Roll on day 4…